Meaning & use

be the bigger person

phrase·Everyday

To respond to a conflict with maturity and grace, rather than reacting pettily or seeking revenge.

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Instead of arguing back, she decided to be the bigger person and simply apologized.

He was the bigger person when he congratulated his rival on winning the award.

A note on using this word

The idiom is usually 'the bigger person,' comparing maturity, not physical size.

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