seen but not heard

Meaning

1. 1phrasefixed phraseold-fashioneddisapproving

   used to say that children should stay quiet and not interrupt adults, especially in an old-fashioned view of good behavior.

   Grammar: Often appears in the full saying 'children should be seen and not heard'; it works as a complete comment, not as a normal verb phrase.

   Patterns

   • children should be seen and not heard
   • be seen but not heard

   My grandmother grew up with the rule that children should be seen but not heard.

   At the formal dinner, the children were seen but not heard, sitting silently at the end of the table.

   Some teachers still expect students to be seen but not heard, which many parents now disagree with.

Common combinations

children should be seen and not heard

In Victorian times, people often said that children should be seen and not heard.

be seen but not heard

The new policy makes students feel they should be seen but not heard.

expect someone to be seen but not heard

The manager expected his staff to be seen but not heard during meetings.

a seen-but-not-heard attitude

The school has a seen-but-not-heard attitude toward younger pupils.

Synonyms and how they differ

keep quiet

This is a direct instruction to be silent; the idiom is a general comment about how children should behave.

stay silent

This describes the action of not speaking; the idiom describes an expectation placed on children.

Opposites

Commonly confused: seen but not heard or heard but not seen?

Practice

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